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    How much does your family know you?

    This is a bit of a deeper question so I am putting in the in serious topics/debates section.

    I realized a few weeks ago how little my family knows me when a conversation happening with my mother went south fast. I was talking to her about someone getting out of the hospital and her response was "I told you so!!" and I was like, what is that suppose to mean? She went on to say she prayed for them and God helped, then said she didn't know what I was or what I believed in. I didn't speak with her for a week after that. It got me to thinking... My family really doesn't know much about me outside of my love for animals.

    I thought back further and over the years, I have been gifted things I really didn't like, I was suggested things I didn't want to be a part of, and I was labeled by family in ways that I would never have labeled myself.

    I don't know if this is down to me not being open enough or them not caring to listen.

    I thought it would be an interesting discussion on here. How much does your family actually know about you?

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    You make some very interesting topics my friend.

    To be honest, I don't think almost anyone's family really knows them. I mean, after all, why would they? Humans are social creatures first and foremost; your family probably knows your most common of habits, but do you really want the people you associate with on a daily basis to know your dark inner workings? Probably not -- that would make for some uncomfortable eye contact. It's ironic that you'd be more likely to a tell stranger of your deepest secrets and fears than someone who is close to you, but that's just how we work. My family knows almost nothing about me, and even though I wish they did in some ways, I'm okay with the distance I have between us.

    In your case, I don't think it's strange for your mother not to know what your "association" is. All our lives, most of us try to keep secret the happenings of our social lives from our parents, so why not our religious beliefs too? Parents can be helpful and nurturing figures, but are at many times judgmental figures too. I won't presume anything, but maybe you didn't feel comfortable relaying your religious beliefs to your mother, and there might be a good reason for that. Only you can tell. Either way, I don't think most people's families know everything about them, and I think that's okay.

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    Quote Originally Posted by StarDood64 View Post
    You make some very interesting topics my friend.

    To be honest, I don't think almost anyone's family really knows them. I mean, after all, why would they? Humans are social creatures first and foremost; your family probably knows your most common of habits, but do you really want the people you associate with on a daily basis to know your dark inner workings? Probably not -- that would make for some uncomfortable eye contact. It's ironic that you'd be more likely to a tell stranger of your deepest secrets and fears than someone who is close to you, but that's just how we work. My family knows almost nothing about me, and even though I wish they did in some ways, I'm okay with the distance I have between us.

    In your case, I don't think it's strange for your mother not to know what your "association" is. All our lives, most of us try to keep secret the happenings of our social lives from our parents, so why not our religious beliefs too? Parents can be helpful and nurturing figures, but are at many times judgmental figures too. I won't presume anything, but maybe you didn't feel comfortable relaying your religious beliefs to your mother, and there might be a good reason for that. Only you can tell. Either way, I don't think most people's families know everything about them, and I think that's okay.
    I would say I'd agree with that last bit about them not knowing because I never shared about it, but I have. Multiple times. For at least 10 years now. I have been judged for it by her none the less but stopped caring. Or at least I thought I did. I think it took me more by surprise than anything.

    I think you are right on the first half though. Maybe it is a good thing they don't know me so well. It isn't that I fear I would be rejected for doing something wrong or bad, but rather not liking what they do and being picked on for it. My mother is twice my age yet still teases me like a bully in school. Maturity is lost on some people lol

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