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    What is your failure rating when it comes to reaching goals?

    Every year I set out to do things, make goals for myself and I will be honest... I seldom reach them. I don't think this is down to being lazy either. I think the whole premise of "setting a goal" works for some and not others. I tend to see results when I just go day to day. An example of this would be weight loss. I wanted to lose weight for years and ended up gaining more. I set goals and just kept failing. I stopped worrying about it and I lost nearly 30 pounds. Not even sure what I did or was doing at the time, but it just happened. Another example was launching my first blog. I had the idea and set the goals but never really did anything with it. I finally just said screw it, decided on a domain and started it. Been 6 years since and I actually earn money from it.

    So for me, setting goals has not really worked. I feel like I am more likely to not do something if I set a goal in advance vs just waking up and deciding to do it.

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    In all seriousness, my track record isn't so good there. I've accomplished some decent things through pure determination, but I've also missed many targets. Although it does sound like shifting the blame, I think a lot of the time the reason wasn't my ability (or lack thereof), but rather, my inability to shut the fuck up about goals. I think many of us do this on autopilot. We tell people about our fantastic plans. Some go as far as making others accountable and vice-versa. This works for some types of people, but for others, having people breathing down their necks can be such a buzzkill.

    Worst type of goal-setting: New Year resolutions. I used to do that shit. Always a mistake. It bothers me how so many others do this and then expect you to set goals in tandem. It's as if they sort of want a fall guy. If you both fail they can think, "At least I wasn't the only one who blew it this time."

    I also agree that setting goals often does not work, full stop. Often when people set goals, they're writing an amazing finale to their journey but completely overlook how they'll get there. I don't even want to consider conclusions. I prefer to just focus on the process, and these days, most importantly... STFU about it. Especially among family.

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    If I did my best and still fail, then it doesn't bother me but I'll count it as a failure nonetheless. Not sure that I have any special threshold for failure though, if I fail then I fail.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Zemekis View Post
    If I did my best and still fail, then it doesn't bother me but I'll count it as a failure nonetheless. Not sure that I have any special threshold for failure though, if I fail then I fail.
    I guess it is better than dwelling on it. I know some people out there take failure as a death sentence or something. I had a friend like that. I can't tell you how many things she gave up on over the years because she didn't see improvement fast enough.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KorinKitty View Post
    I guess it is better than dwelling on it. I know some people out there take failure as a death sentence or something. I had a friend like that. I can't tell you how many things she gave up on over the years because she didn't see improvement fast enough.
    To be fair, I get easily frustrated with things I'm not immediately good at (or at least don't show potential for). Sports for example. When I attempt any sport that doesn't utilize a racket, you, me, and everyone else in attendance can tell immediately that I lack an aptitude for sports and no level of effort would even put me above a naturally skilled child. Rather than get really upset over it (granted, I was quite frustrated as a kid when I was forced to play sports despite sucking) I focus on what I'm good at. I don't get sad and fully retreat into my shell to do exclusively non-skilled things like watch Netflix everyday.

    I think the important balance to find is something you have a natural aptitude for and enjoy. For instance, I have a knack for technology/programming and I love computers. I'm no savant, but I'm good enough to earn a living and still enjoy playing around with tech in my free time. I suck ass at cooking as everyone here knows, so I focused on perfecting a few really difficult recipes that others struggle with. I know a lot about brewing & cheesemaking as a result so I don't feel like a total pleb when people talk about cooking.

    Not everyone is good at everything or even can be. In fact, most people suck at most things. Accepting that and then searching for your niche is essential in my opinion.
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