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    The Friendzone

    I'm sure most of you here are painfully aware of what this is, but for those who who aren't, I will let wikipedia do the talking;

    "In popular culture, the "friend zone" refers to a platonic relationship where one person wishes to enter into a romantic relationship while the other does not. It is generally considered to be an undesirable situation by the lovelorn person.[1] Once the friend zone is established, it is said to be difficult to move beyond that point in a relationship."

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    "Nice guys" seem to make up the core population of the friendzone, however, Despite seeming incredibly cold and unfair, in many cases, it's debatable whether a guy ending up the friendzone is actually the fault of the girl or not;

    WARNING: Image contains gratuitous use of the F word.


    On both sides of the argument, one thing stands clear; Emotions are hard things to change. If a female does not find a mans appearance or demeanor attractive, then no amount of kindness is likely to change that. Likewise, it's hard for the male to subdue his attraction, and simply remain her platonic friend.

    I believe that we guys should stop complaining about the friendzone and begin to question whether the ones we desire so much are really all that great. Firstly, there is no such thing as "perfect". Even the Nice guys in the friendzone are perhaps 95% good at the very best, and this doesn't take into account superficial things like physical attractiveness. I firmly believe that the main reason that a lot of women end up dating assholes is because they themselves are assholes. I think both sides need to accept that there is no such thing as 100% good guy or girl. If there was, why they go for anything less than 100%, either?

    So, do we have any thoughts, or stories related to the friendzone?

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    RE: The Friendzone

    I heard the term before but I never looked into it, so I pretty much knew nothing about it before entering this thread. To be honest, I haven't really been in the friend zone. There was the high school village bicycle who I didn't really have a problem with. Then I had a few girlfriends, and the relationships started pretty quickly. Most of my friends throughout my school years were guys since I was pretty shy around the ladies back then. I've learned over the past couple of years that being single ain't bad after all, so I guess I don't really think about this stuff.

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    RE: The Friendzone

    Here's my thought:

    What?


    Swiftly followed by:

    It's pretty funny when you think about it.


    Seriously though, none of this has ever crossed my mind. I'm too ignorant on the matter to consider this nonsense. You know, oblivious to it all, etc.
    "It turned out that the ghost was just Mr. Finley, who ran the amusement park. The spooky part is that, as soon as the ghost appeared, the teenagers' dog began to speak! And it spoke in a tortured parody of human speech: 'relp me, Raggy,' it would say. 'I am an abomination and rould re rilled. Rill re, Raggy.'"

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    RE: The Friendzone

    I consider you 2 to be quite lucky. "Let's just be friends" is a pretty damn painful thing to hear. I think I've heard it perhaps 3 times in my whole life, and in none of those cases, did we remain friends. That's probably my fault though. In the first 2 instances at least. The fact that I was an extremely nervous, loveless virgin made me come across as needy, overly emotional, and even a bit mental. The third time was more recently though, and it played out a little like this:

    *after conversing over the course of several days*
    Me: F**k it, do you want to go out sometimes?
    Her: Sorry, I think I'm seeing someone
    Me: You "think" ?
    Her: Yeah, I'm not sure if he likes me
    Me: I'm sure he does.
    Her: *blah blah blah*
    Me: *gives a sh*t tonne of relationship advice*
    Her: Thanks. We should still be friends
    *Never talk to each other again*

    It stopped being painful and started becoming annoying.

    EDIT: *Sees Grimm online*
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    RE: The Friendzone

    I think I've been exceptionally lucky as far as having relationships goes. I can't say I ever 'tried' to get into one, and instead just found myself with someone for a while on several occasions (it just happens). Although they might have just been stupid. Probably both. Who knows? Who cares?

    This also means that I've been incredibly fortunate in not having some uncontrollable need to be in a relationship. I can't lose, it would seem.

    I generally stay away from offering advice on these things though. Not because I'm bad at it (although I almost certainly am), but because I'm just too blunt and say things that people don't want to hear, which invariably results in all sorts of awkward situations.
    "It turned out that the ghost was just Mr. Finley, who ran the amusement park. The spooky part is that, as soon as the ghost appeared, the teenagers' dog began to speak! And it spoke in a tortured parody of human speech: 'relp me, Raggy,' it would say. 'I am an abomination and rould re rilled. Rill re, Raggy.'"

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    RE: The Friendzone

    Well, I suppose after being told it's impossible to leave the friend zone by boromir then I have to comment.

    Uh... This basically sums up my entire "relationship" with all the girls I know. I have no clue why.

    Would that do?
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    RE: The Friendzone

    Oh, believe me, I've heard it. "Let's just be friends" isn't something exclusive to The Friendzone Club™. I've heard it a few times (or a couple of variants with the same meaning) at the end of a relationship. Except I've never remained friends with those exes, and it's best that way until maybe a good couple of years afterwards. Although I've never been one to progress slowly in a relationship, I've matured over the past few years and I think you should not wait several days before asking a girl, but several weeks.
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    RE: The Friendzone

    On the second time round I waited a month, or maybe 2. It seemed like she was leading me on.
    And yes Grimm, this will suffice.

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    RE: The Friendzone

    Quote Originally Posted by BaronOfStuff
    I think I've been exceptionally lucky as far as having relationships goes. I can't say I ever 'tried' to get into one, and instead just found myself with someone for a while on several occasions (it just happens). Although they might have just been stupid. Probably both. Who knows? Who cares?
    This.

    As for the whole 'friendzone' thing... hmmmmm. I've never personally been friendzoned (hurrrr female, etc) but I have done a pretty good amount of friendzoning and although I understand why it's frustrating, you can't just expect us to date you just because you think we should. Yes, we may get along, even on some crazy galactic level, but why should that mean we have to date? When I friendzone a guy it's not necessarily because I'd never in a million years date him... it's more because I'm comfortable being friends and I can't be bothered taking it to "the next level" or whatever. I dunno lol, this is probably all incoherent as I've just gotten off a 10-hour shift doing inventory... but... meh, guys who whine about the friendzone are clearly missing something. What's wrong with just being friends? Why can't we hang out and drink and play video games without slobbering all over one another? D:

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    RE: The Friendzone

    Lloyd, the only suggestion I can really give is to move on. You might like her, but she probably doesn't like you in that sense. It sucks, I know. I also think the "Friendzone" is really just a myth, because the moment you distance yourself away from a girl due to being seen as her friend is the moment you throw away a possibility; most good relationships stem from a good friendship.

    I know that contradicts what I said in the beginning of this reply. But I'm saying you should move on because she seems to have found another guy. That's usually the final nail in the coffin, for now at least. Else you'll still have feelings for her for who knows how long. Feelings that won't be reciprocated.

    With regards to what Hannah said, I'd love to have a female friend who enjoys playing video games. I wouldn't care about dating. All my ex-girlfriends were pretty boring in the gaming department. We watched a few films, but video games? Two of them downright refused playing them. One was practically a non-gamer before meeting me. I introduced her to The Elder Scrolls and she neglected the relationship to play it. She became far better at it than me and as a result expanded her gaming tastes even more, but it was always single player.

    The final kick in the balls was her becoming a lesbian and going out with a girl from a Fallout community. Then the other one during her time with me was nearly exclusively a Final Fantasy player. So I think I'd prefer a gamer female friend who isn't girlfriend material than a gamer girlfriend.
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