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    Things That Motivate YOU

    Everyone is a bit different. We all don't have the same interests or ideas but we all do have something (or somethings) that motivate us in our day to day life to get things done. Whether it is getting a promotion at work, working out and getting back in shape, or just doing general tasks you don't enjoy (like cleaning) what motivates you to keep pushing or get things done?

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    I'm married and my wife is foreign so taking care of her as she gets herself sorted out here in the USA is a big motivator for me across most of the things I do. As well as that (while it isn't a 'positive' motivator so to speak), I hate to be bad at things. I will either be good at something or not try. I'm not saying that's a good way to go about things, but it has worked thus far for me. As such I have a tendency to specialize really hard into one role rather than just meander about learning everything I can about something.
    I like to think that external motivators don't work on me (i.e things I don't personally value) but that's never the case with these things. I wish I could say that what people think of me doesn't push me; i'm sure it does to some extent, particularly at work. The one 'resource' that motivates me even more than money is free time. Of course I could be a NEET and quit my job to have tons of free time, but the aforementioned motivators hinder me from going that route. Thus, I bust my ass during working hours or chore time to secure game time for myself.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Zemekis View Post
    I'm married and my wife is foreign so taking care of her as she gets herself sorted out here in the USA is a big motivator for me across most of the things I do. As well as that (while it isn't a 'positive' motivator so to speak), I hate to be bad at things. I will either be good at something or not try. I'm not saying that's a good way to go about things, but it has worked thus far for me. As such I have a tendency to specialize really hard into one role rather than just meander about learning everything I can about something.
    I like to think that external motivators don't work on me (i.e things I don't personally value) but that's never the case with these things. I wish I could say that what people think of me doesn't push me; i'm sure it does to some extent, particularly at work. The one 'resource' that motivates me even more than money is free time. Of course I could be a NEET and quit my job to have tons of free time, but the aforementioned motivators hinder me from going that route. Thus, I bust my ass during working hours or chore time to secure game time for myself.
    I wonder how many people are going through this. I too am a US citizen and am married to someone born outside the US. We haven't started the process yet but we will be soon. Just wanted to wish you both the best because I know it can be a pain in the arse. Sucks that a few bad eggs had to spoil it for the rest of us and make immigration so hard and a long process.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KorinKitty View Post
    I wonder how many people are going through this. I too am a US citizen and am married to someone born outside the US. We haven't started the process yet but we will be soon. Just wanted to wish you both the best because I know it can be a pain in the arse. Sucks that a few bad eggs had to spoil it for the rest of us and make immigration so hard and a long process.
    A lot of people, no doubt. We started the process in December 2017, although there are a lot of tiers to the whole process in which we could quit and she would be able to stay here legally, we are going for a Greencard (not citizenship though). It's not difficult, it's just a mountain of slow, easy paperwork and 5-7 month chunks of waiting. To be honest, the process & expenses incurred by following the damn rules incentivize illegal immigration. I'm not saying it should be allowed, just that I see why people cut through the red tape sometimes. It almost feels like you're being punished for following the rules from time to time, if you do everything legit as we are doing. Then again, if someone can't fill out some paperwork and wait a while to enter a country (we accept freaking everyone as long as they do the paperwork and aren't a criminal, btw.) then they don't deserve to come here. Likewise if I wanted to move there. I intend to retire in Hokkaido, Japan (wife and I already agreed on this, but 35 years may change that hahaha) and I'll be jumping through every hoop they put in front of me because I need to respect their borders if they respect ours as my wife did.
    As long as my wife has residency in Japan, I can live there indefinitely on a spouse visa in case you were curious. I won't be a citizen, able to work, or even considered as a permanent resident. Just allowed to stay and spend money
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    Yeah, my wife just recently got her green card and it was a freaking hassle. The only way I could convince her that we shouldn't just say "screw it" and move to her home country was the fact that we had already sunk several thousand dollars in lawyer fees that we would never get back lol. I hope things work out for you guys.

    Motivation is actually one of my hardest things. To be honest not much motivates me. I don't want to use mental illness as an excuse but it is a big hurdle, and it's hard to convince myself that doing what I need to do it worth the pain of doing it. But, every so often, I do something, and it works out. Something changes for the better. I can ride those moments like a freaking tsunami. Most of my motivation/energy comes in waves like this, so I try to keep momentum going as long as I can.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Zemekis View Post
    A lot of people, no doubt. We started the process in December 2017, although there are a lot of tiers to the whole process in which we could quit and she would be able to stay here legally, we are going for a Greencard (not citizenship though). It's not difficult, it's just a mountain of slow, easy paperwork and 5-7 month chunks of waiting. To be honest, the process & expenses incurred by following the damn rules incentivize illegal immigration. I'm not saying it should be allowed, just that I see why people cut through the red tape sometimes. It almost feels like you're being punished for following the rules from time to time, if you do everything legit as we are doing. Then again, if someone can't fill out some paperwork and wait a while to enter a country (we accept freaking everyone as long as they do the paperwork and aren't a criminal, btw.) then they don't deserve to come here. Likewise if I wanted to move there. I intend to retire in Hokkaido, Japan (wife and I already agreed on this, but 35 years may change that hahaha) and I'll be jumping through every hoop they put in front of me because I need to respect their borders if they respect ours as my wife did.
    As long as my wife has residency in Japan, I can live there indefinitely on a spouse visa in case you were curious. I won't be a citizen, able to work, or even considered as a permanent resident. Just allowed to stay and spend money

    Yeah it is a process. We are hiring a lawyer as it will only be about $1800 on top of the normal fees which isn't bad and it ensures we don't screw anything up. We too are doing the greencard and then after 3 years, he will file for citizenship. From what I heard for my state, it will take about 6 weeks to 3 months to get a worker's permit and then 5 to 9 months for the greencard.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ashtear View Post
    Yeah, my wife just recently got her green card and it was a freaking hassle. The only way I could convince her that we shouldn't just say "screw it" and move to her home country was the fact that we had already sunk several thousand dollars in lawyer fees that we would never get back lol. I hope things work out for you guys.

    Motivation is actually one of my hardest things. To be honest not much motivates me. I don't want to use mental illness as an excuse but it is a big hurdle, and it's hard to convince myself that doing what I need to do it worth the pain of doing it. But, every so often, I do something, and it works out. Something changes for the better. I can ride those moments like a freaking tsunami. Most of my motivation/energy comes in waves like this, so I try to keep momentum going as long as I can.
    Like is basically just that... Ups and downs. The downs help ups appreciate the ups and in a way, I guess they keep is hopeful and motivated for more in the future.

    How long did the green card process take for your wife? Reading things online aren't much of a help so I gave up and found a lawyer already lol

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    I have my highs and I have my lows. Though I haven't been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and I don't think I have it, there are periods when I'm simply stuck in a rut that I can't seem to get myself out of... until I can. But one thing that does seem to control my motivation is an external factor: the weather. Like I've said before I do have seasonal affective disorder. When I know that summer's right around the corner I become more motivated, but likewise, if I know there's a long winter coming up it demotivates me and I just want to hibernate.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KorinKitty View Post
    Like is basically just that... Ups and downs. The downs help ups appreciate the ups and in a way, I guess they keep is hopeful and motivated for more in the future.

    How long did the green card process take for your wife? Reading things online aren't much of a help so I gave up and found a lawyer already lol
    For us it took about a whole year from application to actually receiving the green card. Like Zemekis said, a lot of it is just waiting around. It's frustrating.
    Life is demanding, without understanding.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KorinKitty View Post
    How long did the green card process take for your wife? Reading things online aren't much of a help so I gave up and found a lawyer already lol
    Hmmmm. The Greencard process specifically or the whole immigration process? I don't know where you and Ashtear's spouses are from but I've heard that it takes different amounts of time based on that. So far, we are 1yr and 3 months exactly into the entire process from the day I first applied for her fiance visa to enter the USA. Once she arrived, we had 3 months to get married at which point we could apply for a greencard. We took our time and waited like 80 of those 90 days. We applied for her Greencard JUUUUST as the government shutdown started, I don't remember a date but that should tell you when. Sometime in December. Within 20 days we got a document in the mail for her biometrics appointment, and we went and did that. Word on the street is that once your biometrics are done (fingerprinting) you're 4/5 months from a Greencard.
    We read everything online and never got a lawyer for any of this, it took some serious hours to understand a few of the documents but so far they have told us at each stage that we are some of the most organized applicants they've seen. We must be going overboard?? hahaha.


    Quote Originally Posted by Mantis View Post
    When I know that summer's right around the corner I become more motivated, but likewise, if I know there's a long winter coming up it demotivates me and I just want to hibernate.
    Huh. I'm the opposite. While I do experience an increase in energy due to warmth and sunlight in the Summer, I feel way worse. That may be because it gets hotter and far more humid here than England, though. It's miserable 24 hours per day, our air remains fully saturated for months, it literally can't accept any more water. My friends (even one you know) joke that I must be Yeti-kin or something. Even in -10 F, a button-up shirt with a hoodie is good enough and I'm not terribly overweight or anything. I want to retire to somewhere really damn snowy like Hokkaido. Alternatively, I want to go way up north where it remains dark for 45 days at least once. My favorite weather is rain, and always has been since I was a kid. Sunny days are too generic, i guess? Rain makes me more alert and creative, and it clears out the sticky, swamp-air.
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